Will Meinen | The Tattler
OMAHA, Neb. — The post went up on her Facebook wall at 8:26 AM Monday morning. The message suggested that the sender had been slighted, over-reacted to a passing comment, or desperately needed to be acknowledged by an online community with varying knowledge of the sender’s life circumstances.
Stacey Pender some people just don’t know how hurtful they can be 🙁
Her ‘friend’ group immediately began to ‘like’ the women’s sentiment; implying either they too have had a similar experience or that they like hurting people.
Presumably those closer to Ms. Pender posted comments, such as:
Lizzy Fry i‘m so sorry Stacey! you are such an awesome woman. stay strong! muah!
Pam Richner call me if you need to talk. some people hurt others to feel better about themselves 🙂
Wanda Sykes i was just thinking about our great times at the lake cabin — sending good vibes your way!
Steve Meeks so sorry! what happened?
The onslaught of comments did little to quiet Ms. Pender’s status updates. One would think that after 12 comments expressing blind support, the 38-year-old woman with a husband and two children would rely on a mature inner-voice to propel her forward through lives inevitable ups and downs.
Unfortunately, such displays of vulnerability have proved chronic. It is a thirst that can never be quenched, a need for attention as pathological as that of a stand-up comedian, slam poet, or middle child.
Not 24 hours later Stacey had posted another call for Facebook affirmation.
Stacey Pender lizzie got in trouble again at daycare. where did i go wrong?
A threshold had been met by several of Stacey’s former high school acquaintances and co-workers who either de-friended the woman or simply hid her posts from their wall.
“We both graduated from high school in ’96,” said Mark Q. “That’s as far as our real life relationship goes. I think it’s cool she got married and has a couple of kids, but her constant cries for help to make sense of life are super annoying. I don’t know why your kid is acting out; maybe she has a gluten allergy. Call your pediatrician!”
Stacey Pender some people just don’t get it- and they never will!
Several of Stacey’s colleagues at OPPD have expressed concern regarding her social media practices. Their concern is not for Stacey necessarily, but of the impression she might leave on their real friends.
“You can’t say no to ‘friend’ requests from work contacts,” said Lisa St. Clair. “It makes you look like an elitist. That being said, by allowing Stacey’s glaringly insecure posts to linger on my wall, I’m guilty by association, so-to-speak. What if the people whose company I actually enjoy stop inviting me to dinner parties because they think I too have the emotional constitution of a teenage girl?”
Jim Stevens, who had just left a meeting with Stacey Pender, checked the news feed on his phone on the way back to his office. The time stamp on Ms. Pender’s post coordinated with the mid-point of a presentation to a work team he was leading.
“I saw Stacey’s post and I was like, ‘what the fuck?’ Was she talking about me? Am I the one who ‘doesn’t get it’? Or am I being paranoid? She probably was referring to the fact that nobody supported her assertion that ‘Whitney’ is the best new comedy on television.”
The Tattler was unable to reach Stacey for a comment on her emotionally cryptic communiqué, but her final post on New Year’s Day speaks for itself:
Stacey Pender sometimes I don’t know if i am strong enough 🙁